Happy Thursday everyone! Today I want to welcome another one of my favorite mommies, Lauren!!! She blogs over at The Little Things We Do and she also contributes to the online magazine Babble! Go check her out and follow along on her adventures in Mommyhood!!!
That postpartum sucks...hard core. I would go through birth 100 times over before dealing with postpartum. I was quite obviously "tore up from the floor up" if you know what I mean, so even just walking to the bathroom was a chore; and in addition to that my skin sucked, I was exhausted and didn't know what my baby wanted because I didn't really know her yet. I was SUPER emotional and breastfeeding totally kicked my butt. I wish I had known how hard breastfeeding would be. No one ever really told me about it and all I ever heard was that it was "natural", so I figured it wouldn't be a big deal. My experience was quite the opposite though and I had to work like crazy to make it work for both Fern and I. There were a lot of tears and so many times that I felt like giving up, but I pushed through and it was totally worth it.
Most surprising mommy moment:
When Fern laughed for the first time. It wasn't until after she was 5-months-old and I had started to worry that she might never laugh. But, when it finally happened it caught me by surprise in the very best way. Here's a little video of Fern's first giggle fit.
How has motherhood impacted your life all around?
Motherhood has made my life so much better in so many ways, but also so, SO different. Many of the things I swore I'd never do have gone by the wayside and now I just do what works. I promised that motherhood wouldn't change me, that I would still do all the same things and go to all the same places that I went before, only I'd just bring along my baby. I was determined. Now that it's a year later, I laugh at that notion. It's completely impossible for motherhood not to change you. While I agree that you should still take time for yourself and the things you love, it's impossible to do it all and it's impossible to include a small child in all of your daily plans. Things get shifted and they change and it's not the end of the world and that sweet, smiling little face will make it all worth it.
Best piece of advice:
Lower you're expectations. No one is a perfect parent and no one can do it all, so don't fool yourself into thinking that you have to. Our kids don't care if we breastfeed them for three months or two years and they don't care if the house is always perfectly tidy. They just care about you being there, and being a good parent just means doing the best that you can for your child and that in itself is enough.
Anything else you would like to share?
Connect with other mamas! It's been a godsend for me during this first year. There is nothing more comforting than the assurance of a mama friend whose been through what you're going through.